Falling in love

[Professor]

I met my (future) wife in January 1999. We went on our first date on March 11 of that year (to a cheezy nightclub called Chevy's in Hammond, which is now closed). As an aside, from that first date and for another 3.5 years, we saw each other every day, without fail. By April, I had already decided that she was the one. In May, I decided on how I'd ask her to marry me. I bought the ring in July.

That was 1999. We made plans to go to Banff Springs for the millenium celebration. Long story short, just after midnight at the turn of the century, I asked her to go for a walk. We took a stroll and ended up at a special staircase, just off the main dining room, called the Castillian Staircase. On the landing of that stair, I did the usual one-knee thing and asked her to marry me.

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Of course, she said yes. We were married on February 17 of 2001 (just over a year later).

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[Kane]

I am not. Chemistry can make somebody that previously wasn't as hot, much hotter.

[Mo~]

It can also make a dickhead look like a match made in heaven. Thank gawd I didn't allow myself to fall in love with the latest jackass I was seeing even though he liked to bandy that particular word around a lot. Annoyed the living shit outta him that I wouldn't just say it right back and always clarified it when I did, as in, "I love it when you.....". Love means more to me than just having someone to dump on when you are hurting then dump when the chips are down for her.

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[PoS]

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[Dennis]

I think the thing that gives the "buzz" is infatuation - that thing that makes you think of another person 24/7, can't see them doing any wrong despite obvious flaws, dreaming about them, increased heartbeat around them, being unable to speak properly around them, wanting nothing more than to please them, finding yourself being "better" when you are with them (physically, mentally, etc) etc.

That could also be considered obsession. Frankly, I think the two are nearly interchangable (obsession/infatuation) and I think it's these feelings that a lot of people consider necessary for love and even what love is. Naturally, I think this goes hand-in-hand with the whole chemistry thing that's been talked about. But, taken to the next level, I think it comes out as infatuation. I think that infatuation tends to go away after time too, and that is where people probably have a hard time assuming they should stay with someone, particularly if the base relationship isn't a good one. It's at this point that people say love "takes work", or so it seems to me.

[The Dharma Bum]

Human beings are born with a vomeronasal organ but by adulthood it becomes vestigial and pretty much disappears. So adult humans do not have pheromone receptors and it is thought that pheromones do not play a role human sexual behavior.

So the "chemistry" behind love is a but different that popularly imagined. Attraction is probably more psychological derived than chemically derived. Sexual arousal can be chemically derived, but that is not love or infatuation.

There's a reason why porn isn't scent based. Humans are more attuned to visual cues.

[Homer]