The break up thread.

[lil bit]

[Darkhorse]

Sounds like Lil's daughter is available, Dobby.

[fstarcstar]

Go fishing, hiking, mountain bike riding, enter a marathon, hit some weights, buy a new piece of technology you always wanted with the savings from being single and so on and so forth. Time to focus on you for a change.

[cool_chick]

[Ben Huh]

I just ended my relationship of almost 2 years. Basically, the girlfriend lost interest in me and being with me 2 weeks ago, but decided not to tell me until she came in town this past Friday for my bday. At first she tells me that she has concerns about us getting through her going to grad school and not seeing eachother as often, but I remind her we've been together this long and that we'll be fine even if we run into some bumps. Come yesterday, everything is fine when were at her friend's bday party. Last night, we have another talk and it's the same tone as before. She is telling me she gets weird when stressed (which I obviously know already, this far in) and that I don't deserve her or the treatment I may get from her. Come Sunday morning, yet another conversation, this one by text where she basically blames me for her stress the past 2 weeks, not for something I actually did mind you, but because she didn't know how to end our relationship. She was trying to convince me to agree with her about it working whilst she was in grad school the next 2 years and then have us mutually agree to end it. Too bad for her I thought things were going very well and stood my ground on my commitments to her. She finally just admits that she has lost interest in it, but then still blames me for everything even though she told me I did nothing. I let her go at that point. 2 years gone. She didn't even have the decency to end it in person or just tell me 2 weeks ago. It had to be now, on my birthday weekend.

[PoS]

You people need to read this: http://www.artofmanliness.com/2009/04/2 ... ike-a-man/

[Dobby]

So I've taken on board some of the advice so thanks guys! Plus I'm living the graduate dream as I start a job working in Subway tomorrow!

But on a serious note, I've applied to run the London Marathon for the NSPCC, taking things slowly but applying for every politics internship in London in the hope that even one will reply.

[Dobby]

[Professor]

Also, keep in mind some "perspective". It is inevitable that this seems like a big deal right now. And, right now, it is. I'm not discounting that. But, try to think about what your perspective will be in a year.

For instance, remember back to high school. You wanted to go out on Friday night to a big party because all your friends were going, and that girl you liked was there. But, you forgot to unload the dishwasher, and you're grounded. If you're like most teenagers, you told your parents that being grounded was going to ruin your whole life. It was the worst thing that could possibly happen to you, ever. And, at that time in those circumstances, you were right. It was the worst thing.

But, time gives you some perspective. You look back and hardly even remember that night. Who was going to the party? Where was it? What was that girl's name? Chances are good you can't even remember the answer to one of those questions, much less 2.

The same thing will likely apply here. In a year or two, or even a few weeks, you won't even care about it. There will be a new "big thing" to be upset or jubilant over.

[The Comrade]