why do relationships suck?

[Spider]

The problem I think is that people expect it to make their lives better by default. Its one of those things where you get out what you put in. A relationship should be more like an ongoing project (a rewarding one) rather than an accomplishment. A lot of people get married because its a goal...or even a rite of passage. A social norm. Something that your just supposed to do.

Then, after the honeymoon period its, "Ok. Now what?".

Now its time to put on the gloves, do some stretches, and be married.

Keep laying bricks I guess. Dunno. I'm still a novice I suppose. Can't figure out how my grandparents, in their late 80s, who've been married since the damned Truman Administration, haven't completely lost it. Sometimes they even hold hands. Its wild.

[Revenant]

[Dennis]

[Kane]

Because you're stuck wondering if you should keep looking for that person that you know will make you feel great inside all the time, that lifts your spirits and makes you constantly happy, that you can talk to and it just "clicks" every time, or simply settle for less because that person doesn't exist and never did. Those feelings were false based on infatuation, a crush, and wildly unrealistic expectations. Or were they?

Relationships suck because in order to know if it's going to work you have to actually try anyways. It's an investment of time and energy that can be a total waste. On top of this you need to be a good judge of character as well as be introspective enough to know your own limits and the unrealistic nature of some of your own desires.

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[jurupa]

Why do relationships suck? Because people suck. And then there's the stories about freaking crazy ass girlfriends f**k cutting off and biting off balls and cocks.

[The Dude]

wait, i'm confused. Em got divorced?

[Kane]

I just broke up as well. I tried to make it work a second time but had to let her go this past Sunday. I loved her and still do but she's neurotic and brought me down too many times. I loved seeing her happy...I just wish she could be moreso.

Anyways, I've already started looking for somebody else. Not because it was bullshit, just because I want to be happy again. I want to know that I can get that feeling back. Men deal with a breakup differently, we actually take it harder than women.

So don't hate on that guy just because of that. He could still be a douche, but not simply on those grounds alone.

[The Dude]

hm, i am behind the times. I had no idea you got separated, Em. Maybe this happened at a time I was on hiatus.

Poor Kane and Em.