by exploited » Tue Dec 04, 2012 12:00 am
Whoa whoa whoa. Let me skip to the end of your diatribe and look at this little morsel:
Why does the idea of a man pursuing a woman that has indicated to him that's she wants to and is willing to stay at home a problem? Why is it sexist? Enlighten me.
I have been saying this entire time that it isn't sexist. If that's the understanding, and the woman came to the decision because that's what she wants, there is nothing wrong with that.
What is wrong is emotionally black-mailing your wife or prospective wife to give up her job, which she does because she has no choice, other than losing her marriage. It is wrong to date someone for years, fall in love, and then when you start talking marriage, ending it because she isn't willing to stay home and take care of the kids, to enable you to go to work.
A successful marriage is based on compromise, and absent a very narrow set of reasons for why a woman shouldn't work, it is selfish and cruel (at best) and sexist (at worst) to expect her to do it. Some, but not all, posters here have embraced the worse-case mindset.